50 Shades: I should've posted this a long time ago

I found this in the notes on my phone, and I wanted to share it a lot earlier. It's probably far too late now, but better late than never? I have strong feelings against the 50 Shades book/movie, and not because of your typical Christian "sex outside of marriage is bad, stop that right now" rationale. No, I think it's dangerous. This movie has the potential to perpetuate the [any form of sexual abuse] culture we have here in America.

The assumptions it will create/add fuel to:

• Men cannot control their sexual urges

• Even "good girls" want sex; they just might not understand how much they do. (I'm not saying girls don't want sex. I'm stressing the "no means yes" idea it puts into play)

• Being violently obsessive is a totally acceptable behavior in a relationship

• It is permissible to break the rules of BDSM (such as a safe-word), because she's going to enjoy it in the end

Listen, I understand it's exciting. I understand there's been a huge swing towards BDSM recently, but we need to think about what subliminal ideas we're letting sneak into our heads and our society--as a generation, as a nation filled with sexual abuse, as humans.

I think invasive things can be pushed out of our minds in most cases: pictures, violence, poor humor, etc. But friends, the hardest thing to shake is a subliminal idea, because sometimes you're not even sure if it's invasive.

Think twice.